The Most Common Questions Couples Have
I/We Just Want To
Be With Another Woman, Is That OK?
There are many
couples in which the wife wants to play with another
woman..... And just have the husbands watch. It depends on what
the other people's rules and interest are. There are many single
Bi-females that are seeking to play with couples or just the
wife. The most important thing is to be upfront and honest with
the people you meet so that you do not lead people on. For the
most part, lifestylers are very understanding.
Don't You Ever Get
Jealous?
There is nothing to
be jealous about. No one in the lifestyle is looking to
fall in love or for someone to replace their mate. Swinging is
primarily a "Couples Activity" and something done
together....as a couple. It might take a while
to completely "get it"
and understand that when couples are playing with other people,
there are no emotions or romantic feelings involved.... Its just
a moment of exciting physical fun... Then the moment is over.
Bringing another person into your sexual play for your enjoyment
is not much different than bringing a vibrator to bed with you to
enhance your sexual pleasure. You are not in love with the
vibrator, you are not jealous of the vibrator and there is
nothing to be jealous of when including another person or couple
into you sexual play. It's sexual recreation, it's just for
fun... It's just sex... nothing more.... nothing serious.
How Do You Meet
People In A Couples Swinger Club?
Close EncountersTM has a
very social atmosphere. Everyone is very friendly. For a
first time visitor it may appear to be a little cliquish.... But
that is only because there are many regulars and they know each
other and have become great friends. You'll soon dicover that no
one is ever precluded and everyone is always welcome to meet and
join a group of people as Members are always excited to meet new
visitors. It's like going to a club when you were single, you
just need to be a little social. Sometimes you meet people on the
dance floor. A special look, a wink or a smile... Or even a soft
brush often begins a conversation. It's easier to make friends
and meet new people at Close Encounters because you know that
everyone has at least on thing in common... We're all
sexual pioneers and explorers!
My Husband Won't
Feel Comfortable With Another Man Approaching Me... How Do I
Handle That?
The rule in the
lifestyle is that the women make the rules. One of the
best parts about going to Close EncoutnersTM is that, unlike straight clubs. Close EncountersTM is not a
"meat market" The members mostly move around as couples
and are not aggressive. They are open and honest in their
introductions to you so you won't hear any silly pickup lines at
Close EncountersTM because people are looking for new friends, not
trying to hustle you. Let the ladies take the lead, most couples
are turned off when the man is the more aggressive one of the
couple. You will learn a lot by just observing.
Will We Feel
Pressured Into Doing Anything?
Remember the golden
rule in the clubs is that "NO MEANS NO".
Before you go, it is important to communicate with each other.
Have a clear understanding of what you want to do... And what you
don't want to do. It is very important to set your ground rules
for yourselves so no one is put on the spot if a situation comes
up. TAKE BABY STEPS.... There is no hurry, you
have a whole lifetime of fun ahead of you!
We Are Not Fat But
We Are Not Super-Models Either, Will We Feel Comfortable?
There are people of
every size, shape, religion, and color who are in the
lifestyle. Everyone has their own definition of what they are
attracted to. This is all about physical attraction and
chemistry. There are many people who you might become best
friends with but with whom you will never have a physical
relationship. But even people who think they will never find
another couple with similar interest and attractions, end up
meeting people they have a lot in common with. And remember that
just because a couple is friendly to you, doesn't nessarily mean
that they want to have intercourse with you... So relax and have
fun... They're just being friendly and making new friends!
Has Being In The
Lifestyle Affected Your Marriage?
Of all couples you speak
with, 99% will tell you that the lifestyle has definitely made
their relationship more exciting and has brought the couples much
closer together. It should not be considered "therapy"
and if you don't have a strong foundation it can lead to
difficult situations. Most couples become a lot more aware of
their physical pleasures and are more attentive to each other's
desires and stop taking each other for granted when they see how
desirable everyone finds their mate. Married life is a lot easier
when you are having fun, no matter what pressures you face each
day!
